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Ice,
Sounds like you have alot of different prospectives. But here is my take. If you go ahead and stroke it out all the time, its not going to get the job done, it will only temporarily make things easier. But once you get near your lady, pop goes the weasel, and it will also make your next sexual encounter horrible. Honestly though, I think that your girlfriend is just a women that is not interested in sex very much, yes this is possible, for those of you who are in denial. You are going to have to make decisions, you have endless options.
1.) Talk to her, you can try and find out a way that you can get what you need while respecting her needs. If you guys love each other that much then this should be no problem at all, she will want to make you happy, and you should want to make her happy aswell. If there are communication problems then this will not work, and you can view this as a good indication that something is wrong with the relationship, and maybe you need to find out what it is before trying to stick you dick in something. Needs, in a relationship are a two way street, if you are going out of your way to fulfill her needs in hopes that she will return the favor, there is something wrong. She should want to please you, if she does not see that you have needs aswell, then you might want to start considering whether you can live in this type of situation, chances are that this will be the kind of treatment that you can expect in the long term. In most cases you will find that there are temporary periods of time where things might change, due to an argument, or a discution, but in most instances things always go back to the way they were. The reason being for this is people dont change who they are, you can change things you do, but at some point who you are is who you are going to be. Not to mention that if you find that you are denying yourself things that you need, or making sacrifices that are in controversy with who you are, then you are not only lying to yourself you are lying to her aswell, you are leading her to believe that you are something that you are not, and this will eventually come to the surface and cause major problems in the relationship.
2.) You could try and take the responsibility on yourself, and suck it up. If you really are head over heals for this girl and you dont want to rock the boat. Maybe you should look in your area for sex-aholics meetings, dont laugh. If you do have a problem that is phycological, the only way that you are going overcome it is if actively seek help, and support. You may be able to better understand and gain better prospective at the entire situation this way aswell. I would like to point out that this is something that you need to consider carefully, there are alot of girls out there that would love to be with a guy who want to fuck all day long, because if you are choosing to take this road, you have to be committed to it or it will not work. You might want to see if you GF would like to come to some of the meetings with you, so maybe she can understand what is going on with you aswell, this will get her involved in the solution, I mean lets face it this is not just your problem it a problem for the both of you, and if this is not how its viewed or treated you might want to re-evlaluate your GF's intentions and commitment to your relationship.
3.) You might want to consider self gratification. I know its not the same kind of interaction that you get when you are with women. But you might be able to take care of the sexual urges in the heat of the moment. I do not recommend this course of action, as I dont think that this will solve the situation, you need a more long term solution. Now with that said, you could try lotions, mentholated creams, toys, videos, etc....us your fucking imagination. Just dont become that weird pervert guy...ok.
4.) Leave that prude bitch and go get you some fucking hard core pussy. Go out and fuck the shit out of some young freshmen that can suck the chrome off a trailer-hich. Make sure that you protect you dick with a body bag and have a great time.
5.) Maybe your girlfriend would be willing to have an open relationship, or at least be willing to have group sex, so that you can share in the pleasures together. This will not only bring your relationship to a higher level of comfort and commitment, if successful, it will allow you to express yourself the way you need to.
6.) Now this is a scenario that no one have even touched on. Have you ever considered that your girlfriend is not being satisfied with your sexual performance. Really, maybe the reason she does not want to have sex with you is because it is not rewarding for her. This may not even be your fault, there are a large number of women who find it extremely hard to reach a climax. Either way this can be remedied with honest, and mature conversation. If you are having problems satisfying her, there are alot of options that you have to fulfill her needs and give her the "O" face, and I am sure that you can be creative with toys, scenarios, and other type of stimulus. Try choking one out one time and see how she likes it, try slapping you balls in her face and cuming in her eyes.
Like I mentioned before you have endless options, but in the end I would have to say the you just need to make sure that you are getting what you want out of the relationship, because you come first. I have always believed that love is when you put someone elses needs above your own, and inturn you should be treated the same. And if you love her, and she loves you, there is no dought that you two will be able to work things out. But if this is not the case, you must be willing to make the right decision's not only for your happiness but for hers aswell.
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